Here’s the thing when it comes to life…
It’s ALL in perspective. And perspective is and always will be 100% a choice.
You can ALWAYS choose to shift your perspective. EVEN if you’re surrounded by people who don’t share the same beliefs (although it will be more difficult). EVEN if you’re the odd one out. It doesn’t matter.
I’d rather be the odd one out than choose to bring everyone down into my drama which never solves a damn thing.
It takes very little (if any at all) effort to be negative.
But to CHOOSE to see a silver lining in EVERY situation? Choosing to THINK before reactively lashing back? That, my friend, takes some MAJOR commitment. That takes some SERIOUS effort.
But, just like in a workout, it’s a muscle that you gotta practice using every single day. Little by little, moment by moment. And every single day, it becomes stronger and more resilient.
And then, as if suddenly, you just flow into a default state of seeing the important life lessons in every single situation. It becomes second nature. It becomes a natural part of your being.
You rise ABOVE the drama, the blaming and the anger.
You’re able to see the situation from almost a third-party perspective and reflect on what you learned from it and how you can apply this lesson to your life going forward.
You’re able to roll with the punches and go with the flow, and not freak out every time something in your schedule changes to inconvenience you.
This skill, my friend, will take you FAR in life. It’s something that many people cannot and do not bother to do. If you can master this, your life will become FAR less stressful.
Not because there will be far less stressful situations happening, because, well, LIFE.
It’s because you’ll be able to see each stressful, scary, weird situation as something happening to teach you a valuable lesson. You’ll be able to be comfortable feeling and processing your feelings, but not being completely consumed by them.
Calm is a superpower and a choice. Changing your perspective is a superpower and a choice.
I’m not saying that life is all rainbows and sunshine all the time. Even for an optimistic person like myself. But what I am saying is that you do have what it takes in you to reframe even the shittiest of situations and spin it into something positive.
I’m also saying that the state of my life in ALL areas…I’m talking confidence, relationships, financials, mental health…only got better (and continues to do so) by shifting gears and adopting this mindset.
I think this is evident to anyone who’s been following me for a few years now. So if nothing else, let me be living, breathing proof to you that this shit actually works.
Because I’ve been on the other side of it. In fact, I existed on the other side of it for the majority of my life thus far.
So the next time something annoying happens to you, like IDK…maybe you’re told you have to remain inside for another couple of months while the entire world continues to battle a pandemic, you COULD take the opportunity to complain about how unfair things are and how bored you are.
Or you COULD INSTEAD take it as an opportunity to understand how fortunate you are to be able to enjoy the small pleasures in life, like cooking a meal or taking your dog out to play.
Like seeing this time at home as an opportunity to finally build that side hustle you’ve been talking about for ages, taking up a new hobby, or connecting with friends that you’ve been too busy to catch up with.
Perspective is ALWAYS a choice.