xo, alix

alix lynx, unhinged

New Year, New Slate

 

 

My god has it been a HOT minute since I’ve written anything on here.

My intention with this blog was always to write when I felt inclined to write. As in, it’s essentially my hobby. It’s a thing I do because writing has always been something I’ve loved to do since I was a small human. When I’m writing, I lose myself and the words just flow. Plus, I like to help people by sharing my own stories, my own insights, my own lessons that I’m learning, etc.

I think we often forget that what comes naturally to us doesn’t come so naturally to others. I think we often underestimate our ability to have a positive impact on the world and inspire others. I think we often forget just how incredible and special each of us truly is.

Anyways, I’m BACK! And it feels really, REALLY good.

I want to share some updates with you pertaining to my own life, my own headspace, and where I’m at in the world.

While I’m not one for New Year’s resolutions, I do believe that the new year symbolizes hitting the “refresh” button on life. It’s a clean slate. I certainly feel this way right now.

I look back on 2021 and wonder where the actual hell the time went. It FLEW, right?!? Which, to me, indicates that time, especially in adulthood, seems to pass by so, so quickly. This also serves as a reminder to me that if you want to start something, whether it’s a project, hobby, business endeavor, whatever…there is truly no  perfect timing. You just gotta START, and figure it out along the way. Just like there’s no such thing as a perfect relationship or perfection in day to day life. You spill your coffee on the floor. You wake up at 6am and immediately have to clean up dog poop in the living room, un-caffeinated. (Literally my day yesterday, yum!) You realize you forgot to pay a medical bill that got lost in the mail. Life is a beautiful, imperfect experience.

For me, 2022 symbolizes deep commitment. To my peace of mind. To showing up for myself, even when I don’t feel like it because it’s in my best interest (annoying middle of the day doctor’s appointments, anyone?!) To doing my morning stretches even when I just feel like sitting at the kitchen table, sipping coffee and staring off into space. To bringing anything that I’ve got brewing in me, like new business endeavors and projects, travel ideas, home decor ideas, whatever, to life.

People often ask me how I stay so motivated. My response to that is that I don’t. I’m absolutely not motivated every day. What I am, however, is disciplined. I know that through consistent, repetitive action steps towards what I want in my life (stuff like a thriving business, loving relationship, financial freedom, solid friendships and family ties, a long, healthy life) that I will reap the benefits tomorrow with the seeds I plant today. That’s my “big secret” to staying “motivated.” 😉

Does staying disciplined like this get mundane sometimes? Sure. Do I sometimes have frustrating days where I’m on hold with an airline for 2 hours and then get cut off, which makes me want to go live in a tree in the middle of the forest with no technology? You bet. Do I sometimes just not want to do life at all in the morning, and instead lay in my cozy bed all day swaddled in fuzzy blankets watching Sex and the City reruns? Hell yes.

But I don’t, because I’m committed to myself and my life and making my corner of the universe as incredible as possible.

In addition, I’ve also noticed a massive expansion within myself mentally.

I’m noticing myself becoming…softer. Being more comfortable with being vulnerable. Becoming even more empathetic to others, even when they’re being annoying. Being more loving in general, and expressing that. Still being extra and loving getting glammed up and dressing cute, but simultaneously recognizing the value in becoming more focused on making sure I’m just as beautiful on the inside as the outside. Envisioning myself with a family of my own one day. Finding happiness and joy in the little day-to-day things, like taking my dog outside and watching her bound about in the snow like a baby lamb. Is this what growing up is? If so, I’m here for it.

I’m beyond excited for what this year will bring.

Thank you for being here with me on this journey that we call life.

xo, alix

My New Merch Collection is Here!

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….and I am SO stoked.

 

Introducing…the “Masked” collection.

I had been marinating on hitting the “refresh” button on my merch for MONTHS before this design came to me, but, frankly, was completely uninspired.

Until I wasn’t. 

Lately in my life, I’ve been focusing HEAVY on quality over quantity…getting rid of random crap around my house I no longer use. Spending more money on higher quality items, like furniture, that I KNOW will inspire me, make me happy, and last WAY longer than the cheap-o Amazon stuff I had in the past. Investing quality time with my circle of favorite humans.

Elevating, while at the same time, simplifying. 

Which is exactly the feeling I get when I look at this collection. (Fun fact: It also plays off the fact that we all have an inner freak inside, too. ;})

I created as many eco-friendly items as possible (full disclosure: I am STILL not done nerding out over the biodegradable phone case)!, and everything is unisex AF.

Dress it up, dress it down, and let your freak flag fly (while keepin’ it classy). 

CLICK HERE to shop the “Masked” collection now. 

and, if you do snag anything from my store, make sure you tag/tweet me and let me know!

xo, alix

 

 

 

 

 

Quality > Quantity is Forever the Vibe.

 

I’m going through a phase in my life right now…but it’s more than just a phase.

It’s a transformation. A new way of being. An “up-leveling” of sorts.

Since moving to New York, I’ve been living in a state of more calm and quiet than ever before. Which is both a utopia and a goldmine for a thoughtful introverted boss lady like me, who needs a LOT of alone time to not only recharge my internal batteries, but also to be the observer of my thoughts and what I REALLY want.

On a surface level, this whole notion all started with spring cleaning and buying new furniture for my new house.

For the first time in my life, I splurged on pieces that were not from IKEA or Target. A beautiful (HOT PINK, BTW) desk that will last me for YEARS. A loveseat. New rugs. Furnishing and decorating a house is a work in progress, but the entire intention behind the way I’m living now is quality over quantity. I would MUCH rather spend the extra money now and invest in high quality pieces that will last me a LONG time than buy cheap crappy throwaway furniture that is sure to break in a few years. The new pieces just bring a new energy to the place. A fancy one ;}

Same goes for the random crap I had all over my house (as most of us do). I went through each piece, Marie Kondo-style, and if whatever object I was holding didn’t make me feel instantly happy, it got tossed or donated. I also live and breathe by the “if I haven’t touched it in a year, I’m getting rid of it” motto.

I’m a FIRM believer that (especially as someone who works from home most of the time) that the state of your environment has a direct effect on the state of your mind, which can be good or not so good, depending on how much of a mess you’re living in. Even when the mess is shoved away into a closet somewhere. This also helps me have no emotional attachment to material items because I know that, ultimately, if I REALLY, TRULY needed something that I got rid of, I can just go to the store and buy it. No need to have 25 extra empty picture frames laying around “just in case” I feel like going on a nostalgic photo framing spree one day.

Same goes for clothing. I’m now finding myself spending a lot more money on high-end brands, but I’m also finding that not only do I take care of them more consciously, but I also wear them for WAY longer. Like, YEARS longer. Instead of buying a $100 jacket that I’ll wear for one season, I have a $1000 jacket that I’ve worn for ten years straight, 6 months at a time. Broken down into the cost per wear, it’s certainly been well worth the investment. And, when I go to sell it, it will hold its value FAR greater than a dupe version of the same piece. Plus, wearing nice pieces makes me feel fancy as fuck and I just carry myself differently. It is what it MF is.

If we wanna dig deeper here…food. Especially since 2018 when I went vegan…I became WAY more conscious about what I put into my body and became no longer available for grocery shopping with the intention of buying as much as possible for as little as possible. If I’m not actually going to eat and enjoy what I’m buying, what the fuck is the point of buying it in BULK, or saving $3 to get the crappier version of what I truly want. In my case, I try to buy organic the vast majority of the time unless it’s just not available.

Much like the other examples I gave here, this is also an investment. It’s an investment in the health and longevity of my future self. I would rather get a smaller order of GOOD, high-quality, nutritious, REAL food instead of buying a fuckload of it all at once that I feel just “meh” about to horde, and not enjoy the meals I prepare very much.

Or…friends. I’ve got a big circle of dope acquaintances and colleagues, but the people I keep SUPER close? That number is so small. I would much rather have this be the vibe than be keeping tabs on a fuckload of humans…we only have so much energy to expend in one day!

The bottom line is…I’m following my heart. I’m investing in quality of life. I’m going and doing and being what feels the best to me, using my emotions as my guidance system. What makes me feel lightened up. What makes me feel more alive. Which makes me show up to my own life with more pep in my step, at my best. I’m no longer available for anything that I just feel “meh” or “it’s fine” about, no matter what it pertains to. It’s either a “FUCK YES” or I’m not interested. Thank u, next.

Quality over quantity, always. 

 

xo, alix