xo, alix

alix lynx, unhinged

When You’re Feeling Uninspired Do This

 

I’m uninspired AF right now. 

I have been for a few months, off and on. Is it common? Kinda. In my case, I suspect because I’ve been cooped up in the San Fernando Valley in the dead of summer (“Mordor,” as I affectionately call it this time of year) with few people to see and few places to go. So really just like every other human that’s living in a place affected by the current circumstances of the world and taking it seriously. 

Pair that with the inevitable change that life brings and getting used to new ways of being and doing things…full disclosure, it hasn’t been easy. I’ve been on the struggle bus. 

The GOOD thing is…I KNOW that this change is all for the better. In my case, this means being adamant on not doing shit I don’t want to do. No more booking scenes for the sake of booking scenes. No more going to set unless it’s for something EXTRA SUPER MEGA ULTRA DOPE or taking last-minute gigs and WAY more producing my own scenes for my fans. I mean, when you’ve been doing ANYTHING for 6 years and then it stops, whether you wanted it to or not, it’s still just a WEIRD feeling. 

Don’t worry, you and I both know that I’m a fucking boss and I’m really good at figuring shit out and making shit happen (from an aligned place of course) 😉 I just feel weird at the moment. Untethered. It’s not bad. Just different. 

 

ANYWAYS. 

 

This is the shit that has helped me get RE-INSPIRED. Tried-and-true methods by your very own alchemist. Teehee. Here ya go:

 

  1. Just fucking do it. If you’ve got a paper to write; a song to compose; a painting to paint….just jump right in. Sit in front of your computer / easel / wherever your “office” is and start writing. Put that first note down. Paint that first flower. There’s something about committing to doing whatever it is you need to do and just starting. It’s like a domino effect. All it takes is that first, second, third step and then it just starts to FLOW. 
  2. Change your environment. Whenever I’m feeling like a lump of mashed potatoes with no brain, I get outside and take a walk, run an errand…something that will switch up the pace of my environment temporarily. It’s an instant refresh. 
  3. Unplug. If you’re not able to even sit still, put a timer on and do something mindless for an hour. Play video games. Watch a TV show. Read. Listen to a podcast and clean. Watch the WAP music video and dance your heart out. Just immerse your brain with stuff so you’re not thinking endlessly about how uninspired you are. AND PUT YOUR PHONE AWAY DURING ALL OF THIS. NO EXCUSES. When the time’s up, get back to work. Sometimes you just need to give your mind a micro-vacation before it can create the work you want.  
  4. Time yourself. Set a timer (I’m a HUGE fan of timers, can you tell?!) for an hour. Sit down and do whatever it is you need to do for an hour. No matter how slow you’re going or how hard it gets, just commit to doing it for an hour and don’t stop till the timer’s up. Even if you make a pile of steaming hot garbage within that hour, it can always be revamped and refined and set aside for another project. Or it could be the beginning of a fucking masterpiece. Some of my favorite scenes I’ve filmed over the years were made in an hour from a cell phone on the fly. YOU NEVER FUCKING KNOW. 

 

Did I miss anything?! LMK. 

 

You got this. 

 

xo, alix

 

How to Live the Life You WANT

 

Something that’s really cool:

Every one of us is a blank slate…and the kicker is, every one of us is a blank slate ALL THE TIME.

Like, I could wake up tomorrow and decide that I’m done filming adult videos forever and that I’m going move to upstate New York and become a wellness coach and also have an alpaca farm. 

Don’t worry, I’m not quite there yet 😉 

We all have more control over our lives than we think. 

In fact, each of us has precisely 100% control over our own lives. 

Terrifying, yet liberating, isn’t it?

I also firmly believe that humans tend to make things astronomically more complicated than they need to be. I still catch myself doing this!

So, let’s look at a real life example of living the life we want. 

When I was laid off from my job at the PR firm I was working at in 2011-2012 (pre-porn), I immediately decided that I would no longer be available to work a job that required me to report to an office, nor would I be available to work a job that required me to work 9-5 during the week. 

I decided I wanted to be my own boss because I absofuckinglutely cannot work for anybody, along with have control over my schedule as well as flexibility and the ability to be able to work from anywhere. 

So when I started to search for work, I only searched for jobs I could do from home with flexible hours, thus weeding out sending my resume to any company that would want me to report there M-F, 9-5…big fat fuck that. 

So basically I DECIDED and set the paradigms on what I wanted and how I wanted things to be, and arranged my life around that. 

See? EASY. 

Of course, you have to actually take action. Which is often the hardest part. But what’s the other option? Living a life that’s just “meh” because you’re lazy? Come on. 

Even when it came to moving to LA. I was born and raised in NY. I lived there for 25 years. It’s my home. 

But I had ALWAYS wanted to live in LA. I can’t explain it. I just felt this pull. I couldn’t stop thinking about moving there, even as a high schooler, plastering my walls with pictures of the PCH and Rodeo Drive. 

So one day when I was 25, which is what felt like a milestone point in my life, I decided that I was only going to be fooling myself if I continued to live in NY and not even at least SEE what it would be like to live in LA. 

To me, regret has always been something I’ve steered clear of. To me, nothing is worse than eternally wondering what could have been. 

So I broke down all the steps I would need to take to uproot my life. Every detail from where I would want to live to how I would afford it. 

And I just went for it. EVEN THOUGH most people in my life back then were telling me I was crazy and that it would never work. 

I still live here, 6 years later. 

You literally just gotta figure out what you want to do and then fucking do it. The key is to keep going even when shit gets hard.

And deep down…you already know. 

And BTW, there’s no perfect time for anything. It’s like…if you want your life to feel a certain way and look a certain way, you HAVE to decide EXACTLY what that will be for you. 

Then come up with a plan as to how you’ll get there. 

Then take the leap. 

There will be bumps. There will be hurdles. There will be a LOT of unknown. 

But you’ve just got to trust yourself enough to know that you’ll figure it out.

You can do it. 

 

xo, al

Just Be Yourself.

Since day one of getting into the world of adult entertainment – in 2012 when I quit my full time “real life” job to become a webcam model – I knew that this would be a decision that would forever have an impact on my life and therefore decided right then and there that from then on, I would live my life truest to myself and that I would do it proudly.

And not only that, but I WOULD do business with and be involved in other industries as much as I damn well pleased, and adult work would NOT have an impact on that because I refused to make that a part of my story.

Have I been discriminated against for doing adult film? You bet. Does it stop me? HELL TO THE NO.

When one door slams another opens. When someone tells me “No” I keep asking until I get a yes.

And unless I absolutely have to, I don’t even bother asking. I just do exactly what I want, when I want.

Aside from the exact nature of the industry I work in, this is a part of life and it’s something I would experience no matter what line of work I was in. It happens to everyone.

The only true barriers in life are the ones we create for ourselves.

The adult community is near and dear to me and I am beyond proud to represent it as whole. I am beyond proud to live my life 100% authentically true to myself.

I am beyond proud to be a walking, talking epitome of what it means to be an independent empowered female in this day and age, just living my life and having fun. Not to mention being an outlet for grown ups to get to know themselves in a safe and healthy way, dive into a fantasy world and most often STRENGTHEN their intimate relationships.

Adult entertainment is all about fantasy. Much like playing video games or kicking back to watch a good movie. It’s about unplugging, just BEING and letting your brain (and body) roam free in a state of being that comes naturally to us.

Because it’s HUMAN NATURE.

I REFUSE to even entertain to be told by others what I can and cannot do with my own life (really, I used to throw EPIC tantrums when I didn’t get what I wanted as a child, and anytime I’m told “no,” I just go after want whatever I want THAT much more)…

…more importantly, I REFUSE to even entertain to be told by others what I can and cannot do with MY OWN BODY.

Adult entertainment is only a fraction of who I am and what I stand for. Why should I feel shame for being a part of a community that literally helps to hold the world together [like can you IMAGINE a world without adult entertainment?! LMFAO] and is epitomized by diversity and all-inclusiveness.

All the friends I’ve brought from the “outside world” to my work functions have said the same thing afterwards…something along the lines of, “Wow, everyone is just SO nice and cool and accepting!”

It’s like, yeah. Of course they are. Because everyone CHOSE to be here. We all WANT to be here. We exist on a certain level of understanding of life and are more than happy to share that with others who are open minded and accepting of different lifestyles, too.

And not only that, but we’ve freed ourselves from the chains society has placed on us by trying to tell us that sex and porn is bad and wrong (while still consuming porn behind closed doors).

It’s classic hypocrisy…which is exactly why it’s laughable to take any of those opinions or commentary seriously.

It’s the people that choose to shame others for their life choices that are simply projecting how they feel about THEMSELVES on the inside, outwards. It’s those with small minds [and in my experience, are also the ones who consume the most of what we as a community create].

Like I said, classic hypocrisy at it’s finest.

And whether you’re in my line of work or not, it doesn’t matter. Because deciding to be 100% authentic to yourself and BE yourself at all times is in itself a gift to the world. Many people don’t even get that far because they spend too much time trying to fit in with everyone else.

That’s all ass backwards. You are the only version of you who will EVER exist. EVER. Insane, isn’t it?!

That’s not by accident.

EVERYONE here has a purpose. Why would you want to deprive the world of YOU, in your truest form?

All I really need to say is this: Please, own the fuck out of who you are. Every bit of it.

Be unapologetic. You owe ZERO people any sort of explanation.

As long as you are doing GOOD for yourself and others, staying safe and healthy, that’s all that matters.

Be you && be it proud. 🤍

xo, al