xo, alix

alix lynx, unhinged

20 Things About Adulting I Know to Be True

 

 

 

  1. Nobody knows what the fuck they’re doing. Everyone is just figuring it out as they go along.

  2. We’re all just a bunch of kids running around in adult bodies.

  3. Figure out a way to make multiple streams of passive income for yourself so that you can make money in your sleep without having to do anything and be able to rely on other sources of money in case something happens to your main one.

  4. Money is just a tool/neutral resource. Nothing more. Good people do good stuff with it.

  5. We’re all fucked up in some way, shape or form because we’re all human. Best to start fixing your shit sooner than later because otherwise it WILL manifest in all different parts of your life, especially relationships, until the wounds are healed.

  6. Everyone can benefit from therapy even if you think you might not need it.

  7. Time is your most valuable asset. There’s no shame in hiring people for services like cleaning your house, walking your dog, doing your laundry, whatever. That just means you’re buying your own time and can use it however you please instead of doing shit that someone else can do.

  8. Thinking you have to, or trying to, do everything yourself is detrimental to your mental health and output of whatever it is you’re working at. Each of us has a different set of skills, gifts and talents for a reason: to share them and help one another.

  9. You’ll learn more being a practitioner of something vs. sitting in a classroom learning about it. Of course, professions like doctors are excluded ;

  10. Deep down, everyone just wants to be loved and accepted for who they are. It’s our motivation behind literally everything we do. We fight, we go to war, we hold grudges…but ultimately, we all want the same exact thing.

  11. What you focus on expands. Focus on the negative, you’ll be a cloud of negativity. Focus on what’s abundant, positive, expansive in your life…and more of that will flow to you.

  12. Nearly any reality you want to create is possible for you. You just need to want it badly enough and be willing to show up for it daily at your best.

  13. People who harm others are the ones who are hurting the most on the inside.

  14. Everyone has an opinion. Know whose to take seriously and whose to bounce off of you.

  15. If you want to have a blueprint of a particular path to follow in life, find someone who’s done it already and reverse engineer the framework of the steps they took to get there.

  16. Something as small as complimenting a friend or simply saying hi out of the blue can make their day.

  17. The smallest of day to day habits pile up quickly, and before you know it, they are what make up your life. Be intentional with all that you do.

  18. The grass is green precisely where you decide to water it. Don’t worry about what other people are doing. Just focus on making your own tiny corner of the universe a fabulous one.

  19. There’s no shame or greed in always wanting to do, be and have better. Life is meant to be enjoyed to its fullest.

  20. There is no one other human being on this planet who has existed, or ever will exist, who is exactly like you. You are a thumbprint. You are something special.

How to Live the Life You WANT

 

Something that’s really cool:

Every one of us is a blank slate…and the kicker is, every one of us is a blank slate ALL THE TIME.

Like, I could wake up tomorrow and decide that I’m done filming adult videos forever and that I’m going move to upstate New York and become a wellness coach and also have an alpaca farm. 

Don’t worry, I’m not quite there yet 😉 

We all have more control over our lives than we think. 

In fact, each of us has precisely 100% control over our own lives. 

Terrifying, yet liberating, isn’t it?

I also firmly believe that humans tend to make things astronomically more complicated than they need to be. I still catch myself doing this!

So, let’s look at a real life example of living the life we want. 

When I was laid off from my job at the PR firm I was working at in 2011-2012 (pre-porn), I immediately decided that I would no longer be available to work a job that required me to report to an office, nor would I be available to work a job that required me to work 9-5 during the week. 

I decided I wanted to be my own boss because I absofuckinglutely cannot work for anybody, along with have control over my schedule as well as flexibility and the ability to be able to work from anywhere. 

So when I started to search for work, I only searched for jobs I could do from home with flexible hours, thus weeding out sending my resume to any company that would want me to report there M-F, 9-5…big fat fuck that. 

So basically I DECIDED and set the paradigms on what I wanted and how I wanted things to be, and arranged my life around that. 

See? EASY. 

Of course, you have to actually take action. Which is often the hardest part. But what’s the other option? Living a life that’s just “meh” because you’re lazy? Come on. 

Even when it came to moving to LA. I was born and raised in NY. I lived there for 25 years. It’s my home. 

But I had ALWAYS wanted to live in LA. I can’t explain it. I just felt this pull. I couldn’t stop thinking about moving there, even as a high schooler, plastering my walls with pictures of the PCH and Rodeo Drive. 

So one day when I was 25, which is what felt like a milestone point in my life, I decided that I was only going to be fooling myself if I continued to live in NY and not even at least SEE what it would be like to live in LA. 

To me, regret has always been something I’ve steered clear of. To me, nothing is worse than eternally wondering what could have been. 

So I broke down all the steps I would need to take to uproot my life. Every detail from where I would want to live to how I would afford it. 

And I just went for it. EVEN THOUGH most people in my life back then were telling me I was crazy and that it would never work. 

I still live here, 6 years later. 

You literally just gotta figure out what you want to do and then fucking do it. The key is to keep going even when shit gets hard.

And deep down…you already know. 

And BTW, there’s no perfect time for anything. It’s like…if you want your life to feel a certain way and look a certain way, you HAVE to decide EXACTLY what that will be for you. 

Then come up with a plan as to how you’ll get there. 

Then take the leap. 

There will be bumps. There will be hurdles. There will be a LOT of unknown. 

But you’ve just got to trust yourself enough to know that you’ll figure it out.

You can do it. 

 

xo, al

I’m Picky. And You Should Be Too.

 

Hi, my name is Alix and I am one picky MF. 

And, long before I knew better, I used to believe it when I was called, on occasion, “snobby” by people who just didn’t get it. 

But there’s a huge, HUGE difference between the two. 

Because, ya know, I’m a pretty chill chick. I’m kind to others, always. So I’m not snobby. 

I’m just extremely particular about everything. 

Like the food I put in my body.

Like what time I go to bed. 

Like when I workout. 

Like who I surround myself with. 

Like the state of the environment I’m in at any given time. 

And the way I see it, everyone should be. 

Because you are LITERALLY what you eat. 

You are a product of your environment. 

You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. 

You are the sum of your habits and choices. 

You are the sum of what you read and what you listen to. 

You are the sum of your thoughts. 

So yeah, you should be PICKY AF. 

Isn’t it fascinating to look back on your life, on all the decisions you thought were so tiny, and how they all added up to lead you to this precise moment you’re in right now?

Everything is important. 

AND as far as I’m concerned, you deserve the best of the best. Everyone does. 

We only get one shot at this thing called life. So yeah, I want mine to be over the moon phenomenal.

It’s just, ya know, MY EXISTENCE. 

Be picky about taking care of yourself before others. Be picky about what you do in your free time.

Be picky about the amount of money you put away for yourself every week so you can have a future of fun and freedom.

Be picky about what you say “Yes” to.

Be picky about how you allow others to treat you (and how you treat others)! 

It’s a no-brainer. 

If you want the best, you have to be picky.

Unapologetically. 

You may disappoint others, but what’s far worse than disappointing others 

Is disappointing yourself. 

xo, al