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ARE OPPOSING POLITICAL VIEWS A DEALBREAKER FOR ME?
Would you date someone with opposing political views as you?
Generally speaking, this is really a case-by-case basis type of thing. Right now, however, in this precise point in time, in my country, I would absolutely not date someone with opposing political views as me. To me, this is very black and white. Either you’re for basic human rights and societal progression or you’re…not. Which I absolutely cannot get down with.
There ARE some aspects of political views that I can agree to disagree on…but there will always be some basic values that are important to me and non-negotiable for who I’m dating. Like, if you disagree with women’s rights to their own bodies (aka abortion), it’s not going to work. If you’re team Donald Trump for life, hell to the no. We will not get along. Don’t believe in climate change? We can’t even be friends. lol. Like I always say, I am who I am and it is what it is! 😉
WHAT MADE ME GO VEGAN?
What made you go vegan?
So, to start, I was raised vegetarian. I was eating blocks of raw tofu and fresh vegetables and fruit at meals since I could eat solid food. So I started off on a super solid base – I’ve always LOVED healthy, vegan food. I can’t even eat junk food – a nibble here and there, but my body does NOT do well being fed processed junk, so I just don’t bother.
When I was 21 or so, I got really serious about weight lifting/body building, so I started incorporating stuff like grilled chicken and whey protein into my diet, which is how I ate (super clean and restrictive) up until around 3 years ago.
At that point, I went through a MASSIVE shift in my lifestyle and decided to turn my health and wellness up a LOT of notches. For me, that looked like a complete overhaul on my mental health (which is where I got into stuff like spirituality and meditating), getting serious about my sleep, stopped partying regularly, and also decided I was done with animal products.
Why? It’s like one day I woke up and was just super grossed out by the thought of eating anything that came from an animal, let alone an actual animal.
I just couldn’t do it anymore. It’s like I had arrived at a completely new level of compassion for others, creatures included. It was a vibe of, “Why do I have the right to kill and consume and exploit a creature I share this planet with? I fucking DON’T.”
I also think getting my dog Scout had something to do with it to. Raising her from a tiny pile of fluff and seeing and reading about how SMART creatures like pigs are…I just stopped cold turkey. I was also living in LA which made it SUPER easy, because a LOT of my friends were vegan and there were vegan options everywhere. So I just started substituting stuff like my whey protein for vegan protein, grilled chicken for grilled tempeh and tofu, etc.
It was REALLY easy, and I’ll never go back. I’ve also never had more energy in my life. I feel like I’m aging in reverse. My skin is ridiculously clear. The list goes on. And now I don’t even live in LA anymore and I still make it work.
The bottom line is, it’s a lifestyle change that’s possible for anyone if they really want to do it. It just takes making the decision and finding replacements for the animal products you’re consuming. I’m a balls to the wall type of girl so I also stopped wearing leather products and am now fixated on cruelty-free beauty products. I also love that I’m contributing to the good of the planet as well as inspiring others to make the transition, too.
RELATIONSHIPS OUTSIDE THE INDUSTRY: IS IT POSSIBLE?
Is it difficult to sustain friendships and relationships with people outside the adult industry?
In short, no.
To elaborate: For me, it’s EXTREMELY important that I DO have friendships and relationships with people outside the adult industry.
I don’t want to box myself in to my social circle being only my colleagues. (I LOVE my colleagues and I AM friends with many of them, but what I mean here is that diversity is crucial in my world)!
My social circle is a big melting pot, and I love it that way. Surrounding myself with people who come from different backgrounds/lifestyles, have different world experiences/viewpoints, and overall have different things to bring to the table is super important to me. That’s what helps me learn and grow as a person.
On top of that, having friendships and relationships outside the business helps keep me grounded. I LOVE my life and my career, but it’s also a weird one. If you’re an artist and/or have your own business, you know what I mean when I say that life can get overwhelming and also pretty isolating if you let it. It’s REALLY easy to get consumed with your work and lose touch with everything else because it’s your baby; your passion (I’ve been there and it was NOT pretty).
It’s also odd to be so exposed to so many people and be so vulnerable all the time (once again, I LOVE it, but I also NEED my people in “real life” to bring me back down to earth). It’s nice to be able to turn my computer and my phone off and just be me at the end of the day, living my life, in REAL life.
It’s not hard at all, because they’re real relationships with real people who see me for ME, not just what I do for a living.
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